A secret garden

“If I had a flower for every time I thought of you...I could walk through my garden forever.”
  Alfred Tennyson

I was watching a Malayalam move the other day” Arike” (“So Close”) by Shyam Prasad..It is the story of what appears to be an intense romantic relationship. The story of two young lovers who are so deeply in love and cannot think of a life without each other.And  they decide to live together and have submitted the application for their marriage and  waiting for those few long days to pass.

The story is passionate and touches you and evokes all your romantic fantasies and memories.

While reading a love letter she just received, she tells her friend ‘I never received such an intense love letter from anyone before.I know it is because he hasn't seen me for few days"

“So you mean to say you had love affairs before?” asks her friend.

"Ah, yes, I often fall in love,but this one is different. I started while I was in eighth standard in school. There was this good looking boy who was in love with me and I said I will commit suicide if I don’t marry him. He was transferred to another school when his father changed his job. Then again I fell in love while I was doing Pre degree”.

Her friend is shocked to hear this.  All the time she was thinking that this was the only true love she had seen.
Towards the end of the story, the girl easily walks out on the boy, leaving him confused and stranded.

Had she actually loved this boy?
Is falling in love a sickness?
Do people who fall in love do it repeatedly?
Is love an addiction?

I am sure there are people out there who would argue that if you fall out of love, that was not true love, only infatuation. But then, what is true love? Is there a love without a physical component to it? Isn’t love like an addiction?

For many years, I carried a burden. There was a lingering ache that formed the reason for a million regrets... And took time to heal and recover.

Looking back, I don’t regret the time I messed up, but I know now I could have been hurt less and created even more possibilities for myself, if I had known what relationships meant.

Time changes relationships.

Pictures never change, but the people in them do. Your best friend can become your worst enemy, or your worst enemy can turn into your best friend. ‘Forever’ turns into a few short months. You can let go of something or someone, you once said you couldn’t live without. And you are the living proof. The person, who once wanted to spend every second with you, go on living, not even bothering where you are or what has happened to you. People make promises despite knowing how common it is for those promises to be broken.  People can erase you from their lives just because it’s easier for them to go on with their own lives.
You might think you made the biggest mistake of your life, and if only you didn’t do it you wouldn’t be in pain right now. Don’t take that road…..there’s nothing good down there. I tried it and it was a bumpy ride and never took me anywhere. Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up your present.

Never ignore the person who loves you, cares for you, and misses you. Because one day, you might wake up from your sleep and realize that you lost the moon while counting the stars. If someone walks out of your life, let them. There’s no use in wasting your time on people that leave you. What you make of yourself and your future  has nothing more to do with them.

I am walking away from everything I had,
I need a room with new colors,
there was a time,
when I didn’t mind living the life of others.

Are you loving the pain, loving the pain,
and with everyday everyday,
I try to move on ,
whatever it was, whatever it was,
there’s nothing now you changed new age.

So much fire that it burned my wings,
her heat was amazing,
now I’m dreaming of the simple things.
Old ways erased.
If love was a word I don’t understand,
simplest sound with four letters.

New age

“Can miles truly separate you .....?  If you want to be with someone you love, aren't you already there?”
Richard Bach

courtsey: Mista Bobby


  1. Make peace with your past so it won’t mess up your present.

    Golden words.. everyone makes mistakes so there is no use dwelling upon your mistakes..

    Have you read the book "The secret garden" ? it is a good one.

  2. Past is gone sir.. nothing can be done

    TIME is a great healer and believe me when i say that one door closes and better Bigger one opens , we jsut got ot look for it


  3. Quite a few matters you have mentioned Doc. To make peace with the past, time changes relationships, lost love was mere infatuation, not to brood over people who have walked out.
    Well well and finally walking in the garden for ever with flowers!!!!

    But do we learn lessons or is it we learn from mistakes. If it is the later , when will we ever graduate?

  4. sir every line every word of this page i can relate too.. if i could start commenting i would comment on every line of yours... if just we could understand and keep love simple!

  5. Your great soul speaks in poetry
    that effects me,
    and remains with me. To know that another person,
    on the other side of the world
    feels, thinks, and formulates
    these words that resonate so deeply
    makes the world even more wondrous,
    life even more luminous.
    Thank you for sharing yourself.
    Well received, Namaste

    Thank YOU for your fine comment
    at my humble blog, dear friend.

    Aloha from Honolulu
    Comfort Spiral

    1. Hi Claudia
      your comment was more beautiful than the post !

  6. So true! Past has to be left behind no matter how painful the process in.

  7. Even I saw that movie yesterday and it also did stir some sort of thought process in me... It is a movie with a light story line but Shyamaprasad has made a movie which will make you think...
    I heard Dileep speaking in an interview that "Everyone will start wondering if I was a Shantanu ever in my life or a Kalpana in my life"

    I also did look back at my life and then realized that I should appreciate the people I have currently in my life more...and importantly not to take them for granted because they are right next to you, not letting you miss them :)

  8. Nice post,I too saw the movie, nice movie,it has a depth which is rare in movies now- a- days. All the three main characters stimulates interest and make you think, especially the friend Anu.Bad experiences are part of life and one cannot erase it off completely.Many of those experiences has helped to give a better understanding of life and relationships. What you said is right,never allow past to mess up your present.

  9. Valid points @Doc! I am searching within to see if I have carried much of any past - good for me can't find much...

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  11. nice post...each & every line carries the truth of past & present
    Tasty Appetite

  12. The baggage of the past is always heavy, it is better to leave the baggage, however pleasant, at the station before catching the train. Keep only the memories that make you smile, the rest were anyway not worth the while :)

  13. Another beautifully thought provoking post with such a great array of things to contemplate.

  14. In order to live life, we need to let go off the past and also stop worrying of the future. The present is what is in our hands, and we should concentrate on making it beautiful with all that we have. A very beautiful post, straight from the heart...

  15. At times a few wonderful moments from the past can brighten up our day. It is only these moments we should hold on to. The bad ones have made us what we are today, be grateful for them and never brood over them. I guess the motto in life is to live in the present. It is easier said than done. Like when we walk through a beautiful flower laden park, those memories come flooding in. Good and Bad. But, wouldn't life be boring and monotonous if we didn't have such baggage. :)

    I saw this movie recently too. I was shocked by her attitude. But all along the story, it was obvious that the other friend is the one who really knew the guy. Just goes to show that friendship should be the basis of any relationship. It is a must watch for this generation, where moving on is becoming more and more of a necessity than an exception.

  16. Quite some thoughts to brood Doc. It happens, and it happens again. Do we learn from it? Hell! yes we do. But we have newer mistakes to make :)

  17. beautifully penned
    time is great healer

  18. Greetings, here's hoping you have a good weekend.

  19. There are two aspects to this and one of that you have mentioned. That is "Time changes relationships"
    The second is "Long distance relationships fail to hold on" Or in other words, out of sight out of mind. It is very difficult to hold on to long distance relationships.

  20. What a wonderful post, Sir. every post of yours touches my heart because there is so much truth in what you say. Relationships do change with time. And only time can heal the effects of change. If only happy moments froze in time. Yesterday I was praying for a pause.Everything's just the way I want it to be.

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  23. Beautiful post Doc. This resonates with each of us..

  24. A while since I stopped by, my apologies for that. Hoping all is well, best wishes for an enjoyable weekend.

  25. “love wasn't possible in just a couple of days. Love could be set in motion quickly, but true love needed time to grow into something strong and enduring. Love was, above all, about commitment and dedication and a belief that spending years with a certain person would create something greater than the sum of what the two can accomplish separately.”
    ― Nicholas Sparks, True Believer

  26. Hello Sir..

    How are you doing , its been a long time since I have seen you around on the blogosphere..

    I hope everything is ok .. Take care


  27. Like Bikramjit said, no posts for a long time....

  28. I went off blogging here for sometime. But now that I am back, went blog hopping. And surprise, no posts here ! Hope all is well

  29. Lovely shots and nice article!

  30. Reading you after a long time.A sensitive post. Are you an Aquarian? Just curious.

  31. To all my friends out there
    Thanks for your comments. I was away for quite some time. I write from my own personal experiences.So it might sound a bit too personal. Love hurts.No doubt.

  32. Hey keep posting such good and meaningful articles.


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